"Too many couples break up because she thinks he's weird and he thinks she will never understand. Follow Glyndon's lead, and let us know so we're not so scared of setting ourselves up for a fall in the future. Be assured, we will flock to you and worship you like the goddesses you are for allowing us to express ourselves to you in this manner."
A: "Not much to add to that."
Q: "I feel very attracted to men who dress as women. I am a woman and I feel like this is bad, or wrong. Why is this considered
wrong, and do men who crossdress like women?"
A: "I, personally, see nothing wrong in this. Why do some prefer a certain hair color? It's the same thing, a preference, a fetish. There is nothing shameful in enjoying what you enjoy so long as no one is hurt (and this desire is quite harmless).
"One reason I can think of that this is considered shameful by some is the erronious belief that to show femininity in a male is a sign of weakness. That is so very far from true. Also, the idea of (what would appear to be) two women loving eachother upsets some people for reasons I cannot fathom.
"To the second question, yes more often than not they do. In fact, some feel the need to dress because they love women so much they want to crawl into their skin for a little while. I've also read that, according to several studies, about 85% to 90% of male crossdressers are heterosexual, or bi sexual with a strong preference toward women.
"I too have a very strong attraction to crossdressing males. It's easy to feel like a minority within a minority when you actually enjoying being with a crossdressing partner. I'm glad you wrote, I feel less alone myself. I can only hope I've helped."
Q: "Well first of all is it okay for me to like guys that dress like girls. The more I think about it the weirder it seems!"
A: "I can't think of one reason why not. Men like girls in jeans, why can't I like men in skirts? It's the same thing more or less (only there are more societal taboos on the latter).
There are some common misconceptions about transvestism that I can dispell for you here and now."
"First that cross dressers are homosexual. Ain't so, 85% to 90% of all men who crossdress are attracted to women.
"Next, he's cross dressing because I'm not woman enough for him. Again, this is very untrue. Most often, the urge to crossdress has nothing to do with the partner. Cross dressing can be caused by any number of things, (extreme admiration of the female form, sexual fetishism, transexualism, etc...) but it isn't to try and replace the female partner.
"If you are attracted to your partner while he's dressed that makes you a lesbian. No, not that there is anything wrong in being a lesbian, but what your partner wears doesn't change your sexual preference. If you care for someone, it doesn't matter what they wear, it's the man inside you love."
