READING BODY- LANGUAGE SIGNALS (RBLS) Meanings of movements, looks & expressions How do you read other folks body signals? Do you watch or ignore body gestures, positions & eye contacts? The new psychology of Body LanguageÓ began with Gestalt therapy & open encounter groups in mid Ô60s. However BL has eternally the open secret of animal & human communication, as children & even birds use it intuitively with instincts, instant reflexes. Our purpose here is defining how RBLS works to show & learn what we mean & hidden meanings, emotions, fears & intentions. Body signals go with words in talking, monolog & dialog. Recently BL experts have studied & learned that touching & rubbing ones nose revealing a lie by a speaker, very common amoung politicians. What do BLS reveal about: intentional meaning of spoken words? Self conscious/vain self-imaging? The emotions of words, actions & postures? Our integrity of truth we can believe, doubt or trus? The health, strength, endurance & flexability functions of folks? What fears & secrets are hidden by words & actions? Traditional Oriental/Chinese medicine uses 12 + dimensions to learn & diagnose illness to treat. Careful examination to learn with sensing one health & illness levels of (excess & deficient) Chi energy flows here now via: 1. Color of skin, eyes, hair & tung, teet urine & poop 2. Chi energy pulses in wrists: 9 pulses in each wrist 3. Face: shape, tone, wrinkles, mouth/lips, eyes, nose, 4. Body posture, position & structure of muscles & bones 5. Voice: words, tone, volume, pitch, pace? 6. Story, complaints, problems, pains, needs, fears, etc? 7. Tung: color, coating, size, shape, feeling, flexability? 8. Breath: smell, breathing, patterns, sound, speaking? 9. Emotions: sorrow, fear, angerage, pain, surprize, joy, love? 10. Head & ears, hands & feet: shape, size, color, tone, senses? 11. Eyes: color, clarity, focus, contact, gaze, pupils, whites, etc? 12. Tension & relaxation levels: hard/soft body musicles/organs? 13. Movements: jerky, stiff, flowing, graceful, rigid, straining, etc? 14. Diet: what one eats, how much, how often? 15. Digestion & eliminaion: stress, pain, blocks, how complete? How we focus to learn real meanings We read body signals, like reading weather patterns in the sky, we focus with open curious learning mind to get awareness of connections between words, intentions & actions. We use maximum sensitive perception to witness real meanings thru pattern recognition of eyes, voice, gestures, expressions, emotions & ideas. We need to be passively alert, clearly observing, fair witness & relaxing in learning mode, listening closely, asking fair questons when unclear, doubting or needing more information here now. We can use the NVC = nonViolent Communication model of: ÒI feel.......when you........; I need.......respect........would you please help me by.......... telling trust, listening, being responsible, trusting, learning together, etc? Just asking why or how do you know?Ó can open the door of truth, respect or trusting more, if we need to now. We can openly dialog to learn deeper, before we: open-up, believe & trust, agreeing/cooperating, making contracts, joining groups, following & mating with partners. The fields of romance & money, crime detection & court lawyers, competar comes from being abused in childhood, & results in more . Victims often seek safety, comfort, security, shelter, protection, luxery, fashion, experts, schools, jobs, money, heros, rescuers, leaders, bosses or fun entertainment, to avoid risking dangerous intimacy & heavy emotions, are stuffed inside forgotten fears of feeling & letting go, so essential for healing old abuse now! It goes with hyperthinking, self- conscious worry, inner judging, rehearal, self doubt, & fears of contact, new or strange encounters, touching & emotions = social & psycho fobias Lost will-power from fear inside causes stiff hard, cold or hot body energy, lack of or excess (wanabe) desire. Having much inner fantasy desire or fear misses BLS. We can learn BLS by focusing on other body talk, just observing others, curious of their: feelings, needs, goals & emotions. Our words are as deep & flexable as our body & emotions. body -: face, expressions, emotions & ideas. learning mode, listening closel. Probing by aeding more information here now to verify, understand or trust people sharing their experience. With awareness we can sense another energy centering sources within or out, depending on parents, bosses, machines, $ & attention. Criminals & sex abusers look & seek for weak victims body signals, showing a needy, shy or scared target for attack. Neglecting BLS is common in people in cities & abused in childhood, are often forgotten & dull emotions, joy & memory functions. Normal hospital birth-trama, sexual abuse & heavy punishment cause common PTSD=post tramatic stress disordersÓ that create fear & ignorance of most body language signals, & more victim problems. To read BLS we need clear awareness to see & sense where they are at now openly & inside changing or stuck.? >Do you ask for what you need now? trusting folks will give you something you can use or not? OUR BODY SIGNS & SINGS SOME COMMON EXPRESSIONS Face: grimace, frown, cheeky, color, shy, nose sniff, Eyes: glance, stare, squint, wink, glare, roll, blink, down, focus, gaze, color, pop, tears, open, shut, Mouth:,tung, lick, lips, smile, smirk, snarl, pucker, kiss, gape, pout, purse, yawn, suck, blow, Voice; talk, wisper, yell, shout, sing, scream, cry, lecture, moan, rant murmer, question, answer, laff, chuckle, giggle, roar, rave chew, spit, drool, slobber, puke., moan OUR BODYmoving in sports, business, gamboling, drug-dealing & war focus on reading body language to get advantage. Some even use ESPsychic powers when body signals donÕt show or tell enuf for stradegy to move. However, present awareness with instincts are more natural, positive & loving, helping us cooperate more than stressing to compete to win some goal in future. Most abuse in relationships happens when we donÕt question, observe/study & learn & remember body language signals that show gaps, splits & stress, hidden or negative emotions in peoples unaware communication. Most lies are reveal or cover inner- problems they may admit or deny when asked about it. Do you dare to watch closely, looking into eyes & ask anyone what they mean, why & how do you know that? Even say ÒI donÕt believe or trust that/you are telling the truth now, see you later?!Ó If we fear rejection, we wonÕt challange someones so-called truth, to get totally clear & honest now, is dangerous & results in much abuse of nieve trusting others words, ignoring body signals. We can sense others emotions as deeply as we feel our emotions & communicate them openly with respect, using doubt in gentle ways to share more truth among trust flexibility questions We can use the NVC = NstrategychallengesomeoneÕs unhealthy ill sick bodiesteethflexibilitysurprisemuscleselimination 16. Body Chi flow thru 12+ maridians, felt by touching them-Ò(J. Fast)shown the open-sto read body meanings, withFont Many books now show how body language works now in action, like in romance & business.s to show & learn what we mean with open & perceptions,, plans & intentions, conscious & unconscious. Do you ask ?s about it? ThereÕs a newage science of BL. David Lewis wrote ÒThe Secret Language of your ChildÓ with many photos of kids, from vast video tape he took observing children for meanings of actions.He found aware kids instantly respond to gestures & actions of playmates, with & without words. reveals Criminology studies how to detect truth/lies in witness & accused criminals words & BL. -I (open & secret)s, we can believe, doubt, or question?of bodies? What fears & faulty goals(Dreikurs)How does face/eye contact work in communicating honest truth? parenting & healing,law, - BLS like asthma express fears of emotions, lack of breathing & panic in upsets, from anoxyia in birth-trama, other injuries or child- abuse, holding breath, etc. Most & deepest fears are unconscious, rising in dreams, nitemares & weird encounters at nite. re communication. Most lies Liers will lie to cover a lie, making up stories to hide their deception. Do you believe words with/out questions? doubts, questions or get totally clear & honest now.