BIRTHING & CHARACTER, HEALTH & LOVE-LIFE
How did your birth happen to cause your trust, needs & talents?
The book Birth & Relationships by S.Ray & H.Mendell is brilliant. It explains how birth imprintes & bonding effect ones life experience & potentials, from deep therpay called Rebirthing, which began in Cali. in mid '70s. After doing a few 1000 rebirthings, oneself & with others we've learned some common effects that birth trama cause. The only other radical western therapy that recognizes the lifelong effects is Primal Scream (neoReichian) therapy by Art Janov, '70, has many books that explain it: Imprints "How our birth experience has lifelong effects". Some hypnotic regression to & before birth, spirit visions-quests & soul retreval has found similar patterns of birth trama, conception & womb awareness, & healing up stresses.
Here's the common birth-tramas that have continuing lifelong patterns following, until one does some deep self-healing work to clear it up. It seems impossible to change the past birth trama, or even remember it is rare, but happens in some deep healing. Often new mother face their own birth trama when pregnant, fearing &or delivering & bonding baby.
CALLED COMPLICATIONS in varied combinations
1. Normal hospital drugged (#12) birth has about 10 common birth tramas which are rare in Natural/home & water birthing.
2. Being accidental pregnancy, unwanted baby, illegitamate or the wrong
sex that parents really wanted, usually a boy; causes sexual anxiety.
3. Miscarriage, abortion, baby death=still- birth happened to mother before
you were born, can make mom very anxious in/about birthing, cause
some complications, fear, guilt or stress in bonding, needing to heal?.
4. Early delivery=premature/pre-term birth or baby hurry - pushing to exit
premie & organs not functing enuf, living in premie-box=incubator
prevents bonding, hard to get breathing = anoxia stress mother stress
by medic to hold-baby-in, wait for doctor or? However the "kangaroo-
care" of holding & bonding with a premie on breast can heal most pre-
term birth-trama & needs, with much close contact & massage. Early
babies may try hard to be good, on time, get approval or love.
5. Late baby, post term=overdue & delayed because? mother holding-in? scared of pain, death or new parenting? maybe late to deliver, or won't come out because mother is not opening enuf to release it, in fear, labor induced(7) Or complications in last term/month; baby may
be cut out, not squeezed thru the-birth-canal that's needed to adjust to heavy pressures tol grow naturally healthy & strong, being weak?
6. Transverse (across) or breach (reverse=feet-first) presentation baby
unable to deliver, often cut out/episiotomy or C-section survery; may
feel like they don't fit in anywhere, has conficts, contracted &or fear
expressing feelings.
7. Induced labor with drugs to make contractions sqeeze baby out fast, may
cause one feeling pushed to do/work, or need to take upper drugs?
8. Twins or triplets - one is born first & last, often premature & unable to totally bond & nurse with modern mother, maybe co-dependent maybe psychic, cooperating or competing with siblings or parents.
9. Forcepts delivery - a metal tool that grabs & pulls the head-out of the birth canal, when suck inside, may Umbi-cord on neck, can cause head & neck problems later on, feeling under pressure to think/do.
delivery, forcepts often used, that may cause shy/speaking problems
maybe helpless? depressed mother a victum of medicalPrimal Scream
therapy by Art Janov, has many books that explain it: Impmrints - How
our birth experience has lifelong effects. Some hypnotic regression to
(& before birth), spirit visions- quests & soul retreval has found similar
patterns. Here's the common birth-tramas that have continuing
lifelong patterns following, until one does some deep self-healing work
to clear it up. It seems impossible to change the old birth-trama, or
even remember it is rare, but happens in some, premature weaning= no
milk? Seperate bed for baby, cribs, carriages, car seats, strollers,
prevent skin to skin contact with baby & simple-touching nature
12. Lots of drugs given to mother are transfered into baby in womb & thru milk she nurses-new-baby is stoned-on-drugs. The pain killing drugs &
saddle/spinal block of mother, to numb her, make her unaware of laboring to get baby out. It may even numb baby to feel its body needs.
Stimulates drug abuse later in life, bonded to needing chemicals!?
13. No bonding or breast feeding, premature weaning=no milk? seperate baby-bed, cribs, pen, carriages, car seats, strollers, prevents skin to skin
contact with baby & simple-touching nature, bonded to technology
unable or fear of love, trusting others, being open, close or intimate,
14. No father present to support mother during pregnancy &or delivery?
May trigger difficulties trusting men, being a father or supporter.
15. Anoxia - lack of breathing & getting enul air/oxygen to start growing
common in premies, overdue & C-sections & heavy drugging mom
in pregnancy &or delivery can make mom very anxious in/about
birthing cause some complications, fear, guilt or stress in bonding,
needing to heal?.
Left baby to be adopted, other parents rarely bond with newborns
instincts.
17. Baby born sick: jaundice, infection, dehydrated, retarded, malformed, etc,
fails to breathe, need oxygen, blood transfusion from bleeding or anemia.