NAKA-IMA, LOST VALLEY & KIDS IN COMMUNITY LOVE or? From Summer solstice "Naka Ima" paga gathering

I finally met LV 5-10 kids after the SS N.I. gather i paid $100 for 2+ days of semi structure "fun" activities at their rural homestead center. The evening after dinner we had a spontaneous meeting with some kids & adults, where Gill, the hired child-carer expressed deep concern over the month of working with very stressed kids, ignored by most the adults. He's a strong young articulate man, questioning & reflecting the kids problems & his need for support to honestly admit, discuss, understand to prevent & solve the kids daily struggles, parent do ignore.
I was able to help them each express true feelings more clearly about & with others who'd disagreed, abused or denied problems, by focusing deeply on their words, feelings & needs. One 10 yo girl was very hurt by a new returning boy, who came to openly share his perceptions there, admitting his fault with her. The adults were surprised while mostly listening to kids feelings shared very openly.

I quickly learned about the kids relationships, lack of trust in self & each other during their shared day play. Gill was very frustrated by the lack of focus on anyone on childerns needs, reflected in notes he'd taken earlier, they mostly agreed with in honesty about their arguing, dumping, insulting, blaming, hitting etc. Some long pent-up feelngs & needs were shared, by not totally released. No solutions were found, when i asked them what they want & need to happen. A little instant trust grew enuf to agree to another meeding tomorrow with parents, if agreed on...
As a new outsider, guesting & learning ney comer it surprized them & me how the kids opened-up so quickly when respect herenow.
The common power-struggles they had were stress all the kids daily.

Their parents knew little or cared less about solving them. That surprized Gill, me & a few others who did "Naka Ima" clear honest communication system at LV, but not with the children, i learned. Gill came from Israel to U$, via Prescott, AZ college program, i got credit for teaching the kids. He & other adults seemed helpless to help the kids share deep feelings & needs, communicate for trust building love. They were unaware of the effects of their words & actions on others. Gill did some outdoor fun games, but interest faded, like an old TV show. The kids were rejecting each other often, resenting, whinning, gossip & complaining, rather be bored together, than be inspired alone or in pairs. I wonder why adult not play with kids or do Naka Ima with them? 3 of us met after an hour to plan the next meeting.
We had a clear 1 hr. meeting to build our goals & trust for next day.

I learned that some adults doubted me helping their kids (property?) to communicate, when they assumed the best for them, while ignoring their problems & potentials it appeared. The kids brainstormed a few games they'd like to play & cooperate together, but not very enthused on it.
What's keeping the adults from using the N.I. skills with their children, they use in paid workshops, live/play seperatly? I was/am very willing to be corrected by any true feelings in the group or sharing dialog. So the next day we met again, on the lawn, after lunch with more folks & few douting kids. It seemed stiff & too serious to be trust-building-honest functions of real contact. Did it threaten their parental authority, they hid at home, to let kids run wild in day "freeplay"? Some were honest & some were defensive, so we had a post-meeting with mostly parents concerned with the kids, another hour after the 2nd open meeting. No new solutions, agreement or commitment came up to bridge the generation gaps there.

A weak proposal arose amoung parents to take shifts being with kids during day play-times. But Gill decided to quit the summer child- care job, because of lack of adult support for their goals & his needs. The LV adults appeared/talked politically correct, emotional control & semi-interested in solving-kids-conflicts with peace-making activities. Some "responsible" ones heavily douted me, my intentions & value there. So i was asked to leave the next day, & was glad to go with Gill to Eugene, leaving LV elder authorities to deal with the children conflicts?!?!
The problems of kids in community being ignored by parents & most adults is common to many city & countries neighborhoods now. The adults are so busy, overworked, stressed & too heady/serious for kids to really trust to understand the kids feelings, needs & perceptions or potentials for inspiring play.

Newage communities will suffer these if they don't include kids in their activities, respecting simple needs. Kids who feel excluded by adults dislike,resent &or not trust & open up with them, who don't play with them. Then their play power games of control at home, building up the walls of dout & anxiety. At LV the kids are on summer vacation & assumed their free to play any games they can agree on. They explode in conflict when they're stressed by school & or parent home life, secret to rest of community. How many decisions do the kids get to make about their real needs for playing, food, sleeping, touching, camping & learning new functions? Do their have any kids run places/spaces, games or activities to use? HomEducation is common in newage families till about 10-14 years old, when kids get to big & strong, needs change beyond parents ability to teach them social skills they want & need to share with peers in free play?!